So here we are. Here I am. Back. We’re finally getting more into the swing of life haha. Which means I can get back into more blogging.
So this is just a post to say hi 👋🏼 and sorry for disappearing. Not that many people read this…I’m just sort of talking to myself…haha. Anyway, it’s been tough trying to find the balance. I’m trying to work, be a mum, have a horse, a life, relationship. It’s tough! It’s tough to stay in touch with people, to keep up with your friends and family and what’s happening. I want to be a good mum but I find myself beating myself up if I feel like I’m not being “good enough” but I can’t be supermum. I also find myself punishing myself if I don’t cook and eat well enough. But sometimes it’s just easier to eat toast. Sometimes the chocolate helps. Like it really helps.
I want to have a career and focus on that but I also want to spend time with my baby without my mind being elsewhere. I want to be with him and just be there completely. Not thinking about what books I need to read or looking at my work emails. But it’s tough. It’s all tough. I guess I didn’t realise how tough it would be trying to juggle everything.
I don’t know what I would do on my own. We have help, we live with Jords parents at the moment. I get lifts from his family, my family because I don’t drive. Discounted ferry, family taking Arthur to nursery, we have help. It does take village and I don’t know what we would do without ours. I guess this post is shout-out to everyone out there trying to find the balance in life. Not just in parenthood but with everything. Some days I feel like I’m totally bossing life. Me and Arthur have a really good day, we go out, clean and cook, I do some work and I spend time with Jord and chat to those who I love. Other days I eat ice cream and chocolate, I put on peppa pig and go through the day as a zombie grunting hello to Jord and just dreaming of sleep.
We are all trying to do the same thing. We’re trying to live. We might travel, we might like going out, eating well, socialising, parenting or focusing on our career. But we are all trying to live. I a lot of the time I feel this pressure and constant worry; “am I experiencing enough?” “Am I doing enough?” “Are we making enough memories with Arthur? Are we good parents?” There’s a lot of pressure on everything. To be good and to boss everything. But I’m just trying to find the balance. I don’t know if I ever will. But I’ll always try.
Life takes a village. Parenthood takes a village. I’m trying not to beat myself up if I don’t always feel I’ve “done good at life”.
We’re all doing the same thing. So here we are. I’m trying to slowly blog and live and do everything else. It’s tough. It’s all tough. Stay tuned because I will try and write as much as I can. It’s something I enjoy and that’s important.
Love, Kate. X